Friday, September 28, 2007
John Ortberg: Spoke about Ps 90:12, "Teach us to realize the brevity of life, so that we may grow in wisdom." We all suffer from hurry sickness and need to "ruthlessly eliminate hurry from our lives." There is a difference between busy and hurry. Busy is a physical, but hurry is spiritual. It's when you are not able to be fully present. Focus on the important. Be rich in being, like joy, love, and friendship rather than rich in having.
Liz Selzer: Liz is the Director of Leadership Development for MOPS. She has some major degree in counseling and education. Her workshop was on coaching. the focus was on helping other get where they desire to be. Not counseling, but help others set goals. This should be different from giving advice - you're helping them find their own answers, drawing out what God gave them. Eph. 2:10, "For we are God's masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago." The talk was based on Priscilla and Aquila in Act 18. So, to be a good coach you need to:
1. Assess Attributes. Where are they? How have their experiences shaped them? Actively engage them. Listen. She challenged us to listen for 15 minutes with only saying things like, "tell me more", or "how did that change things" - standard counselor question. It has been amazing to see how much I have learned about people - deep things, just from listening for that long. People learn that you value and accept them and they begin to trust you more with the things that they guard tightly. Find out what the person knows and loves - their values and passions. What would they do if there were no limitations (responsibilities, money, time). Then highlight the positives, their resources and strengths. Enhance their strengths don't try and fix their weaknesses. This was a difficult one for me to absorb. I feel like I am constantly trying to fix my weaknesses.
2. Create a Compulsion. That sounds bad, but the person needs motivation. Motivation is 40% of why people change. Create that motivation by a.) stimulating God's passion & vision - this includes a lot of prayer; b.) help hone the direction of that passion; c.) model enthusiasm - this is critical - the person needs to know that you think they can do it!; d.) hold them accountable.
3. Strategize Steps. a.) clarify the overall target & expectations; b.) help develop a structure and support THEIR solutions; c.) discuss a time frame and decide on clear criteria for evaluating the success; d.) fuel energy into the process; e.)help them create goals & take the first step. Part of this included how to make SMART goals: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, & Timebound.
4. Obliterate Obstacles. External barriers (distracting events, changing schedules, criticism from others, difficult people, energy drainers, clutter) and Internal barriers (boredom, insecurity, lack of commitment)
5. Evaluate Excellence. How are we doing? What needs to stop? What needs to continue? What needs to change? Set regular times to evaluate.
Remember you are not a counselor! Direct them to a counselor when necessary.
I really enjoyed this session. I was thinking about the coaching aspect for my kids - the SMART goals and helping them to come up with their goals instead of just Mommy and Daddy determining what they should do. And I took the challenge of listening and that was a lot of fun! Now I just have to try really listening to my kids!
Thursday, September 27, 2007
The gators that were inside the hotel. (Or my children waiting for a snack!)
Wednesday, September 19, 2007
Monday, September 17, 2007
This is their Long & Lean. I loved how "long & lean" they made my legs look. And for this 5'3.75" girl, that was exciting. Oh how I loved Gap again. Today I went to buy another pair for my upcoming trip. The first pair I bought I ripped a hole in the knee while we were at the ranch back in August. What should I discover? They changed, again. Why oh why? Must we endure more torture. Must we search for the perfect jean again? Oh they still carry the Long & Lean, but in a light wash (who really looks good in a light wash jean?) or in their vintage wash. That's another name for looks really dirty! I don't like dirt and messes, so why should I wear something that looks dirty!!! What brilliant person thought, "I know, let's add dye and rip up these jeans so they look like they should be thrown out. Then everybody will want them!" I understand the lived in look. Not everybody likes the cowboy, brand-new, crisp, dark denim look. But boy do those cowboys look handsome! But must they be destroyed? And dirty? Why dirty? What must their mother think. She is hiding her face in shame!
But Gap redeemed itself with a new style...
This one is called "essentials". I love the way they fit; I love the way they feel; & I love the way they look! They are dark and CLEAN. They don't come up to my belly button, but they aren't too low either. There is really nothing "fancy" to them. They are just a good fit with a classy line. They should do great with a heal or a flat. They do not fall into the cheap category, but a great pair of jeans is worth it! (At least they're not $200, Pam!) I also found a pair at TJMaxx that are very similar by DKNY. They don't fit the same, but they are a good second pair, and they were only $29.99. Worth the compromise.
I know how hard a good pair of jeans can be to find. So after trying on 30 pairs of jeans today, I'm glad Gap is still my friend!
Sunday, September 16, 2007
My very own Tiger!
Even if you weren't a golfer - the view is gorgeous!
The mountains too! :)
Since we've been back life has been a whirlwind. Now I'm preparing to head to Orlando for the MOPS (Mother's of Preschoolers) Convention. I get to meet up with my awesome friend Shannon and spend four days together. I don't expect a whole lot of sympathy, but I do feel a bit over-whelmed with everything I need to do before I leave.
Sunday, September 9, 2007
I thought I'd give you a glimpse of Fantasy Football draft. Notice how stressed I look! Today is the day we find out how I did. (Carrie and her Dad who helped her are next to me. They look like they are having fun!)
This is what happens when you leave your camera on the dining room table for your children to touch. Well, I didn't leave it for them to touch, but if it is not hidden they will find it and they will touch!
Saturday, September 8, 2007
I personally love Summer - the heat, the sun, the fact that you can spend hours sitting by the pool (in those wonderful dreams I have). Fall means putting shoes on kids instead of flops and searching for a jacket. It's just more work. However, Fall means campfires, and cute sweaters and jeans, and not having to cool the van down before loading kids. It also means a change in the menu to soups and yummy smells simmering on the stove all afternoon. And kids returning to school. So I want it to still be Summer, but I want Fall to come. Well, I got my wish. While it is still officially Summer (according to the calendar), and it was 102 last Tuesday. This morning it is 48 degrees (yes ,you read that right) with a high of 63 today and tomorrow's high is only supposed to be 58! I guess you can have it both ways...sort of.
Thursday, September 6, 2007
I know a lot of you think I'm a little crazy, but really I have always liked football. I remember the Jim McMahon days of the Bears and Mike Singletary. I lived in Tamp Bay when the Super Bowl was played there and remember watching the fireworks from my back yard. When I was younger, I would sit with a spiral notebook writing down each players name and number and position. See, even when I was 10 I was longing for fantasy football! Only now I care more about their career stats than how cute they are...really!
But fantasy football is not the only thing consuming my life right now, flossing my teeth is as well. Not what you expected me to say, huh? I hate when you go to the dentist and they ask if you have been flossing. Who really ever answers "yes, everyday!" That's really reserved for the chronic OCD people...like me. I have recently observed that even after I brush my teeth, there is still a bunch of food between my teeth! Okay, I know that's gross, but I deal with gross everyday. I'm becoming immune. I'm thinking I should try a new toothbrush, but really the multi-pack at Costco just makes sense. Especially since I change my toothbrush every other month.
Before you are amazed at my incredible dental hygiene, let me tell you I replace my toothbrush because I brush so hard and chew on my toothbrush while I do my make-up, brush a child's hair, pick up dirty towels, that the brush is destroyed in 8 weeks. My husband however, could use the same toothbrush from the dentist until the dentist gives him a new one for free.
But back to the flossing...I am one of those weirdos that actually like going to the dentist. However, I have not been pleased with our current dentist. And for some reason here in the laid back world of Montana, I can not make an appointment for six months later, so I'm suppose to remember to call 30 days before I want the appointment. Now they nicely remind me with a post card - one for each member of the family. That's a lot of postage! So I have not made new appointments and our last cleanings were in December. In some odd way I think if I floss every morning and every evening I can prolong going back. (You'd be amazed what gets between your teeth while you sleep. I don't know how, but it does!)
Meredith has taken it upon herself to daily remind me to make a dentist appointment for her, and Jarrett loves to floss his teeth as well. And with Mikalah in braces, she brushes like five times a day! I know my kids are "covered", but really I need to find a new dentist.
In other news, the building we were about to lease for our church has fallen through. The city has said that there are $250,000 worth of improvements that need to be made before it can be classified as "a place of assembly" (meaning it can hold over 200 people). That's just not something the landlord is willing to consider doing even if we are paying the full bill. And paying the full bill doesn't appear to be an option. So we are looking elsewhere.
My question is at what point do we say, "God wants us to look at something else." or "God has something better for us." instead of saying, "We don't have the funds, but God does." or "The church is God's so it's His job to fund the improvements." How do you know which one is the right attitude? Faith that there will be something better in the right timing or faith that God will orchestrate a miracle. We want to patient, but not complacent; proactive but not reckless.
Wednesday, September 5, 2007
Tuesday, September 4, 2007
You can read the previous 50 here.
- Mike and I lived in "Married Student Housing"
- They were a quad-plex.
- Almost all of the couples were newly married.
- The air vents connected the apartments.
- You do the math.
- We would all get together for dinner and games.
- Or just some good Friends, Sienfeld, and ER watchin'
- Mike and I had a pet fish.
- I think we actually had four fish.
- Not at the same time.
- We could just never keep one alive.
- In Dec. '95 we thought we'd try having children.
- In Jan. '96, I was pregnant.
- Elaine and I bought pregnancy tests on the way home from Ohio (Christmas vacation trip).
- We thought we'd surprise the guys.
- I can't keep surprises.
- Mike knew right away!
- I was working as the Administrative Assistant to the VP of Admissions at LeTourneau while his current AA was home on maternity leave.
- My boss bought bottled water for all of us to drink from then on.
- I spent the summer of '96 in Longivew Texas pregnant.
- I used to start the car in the morning at our apartment, eat breakfast, drive the car across campus to the Admissions office, park in the handicapped parking spot, and go to work.
- The drive took less than two minutes, but was worth it!
- Mikalah was born in September - two weeks late.
- After 16 hours of labor - she was born by c-section.
- My mom and all my siblings were there, as were Seth and Elaine, and Greg Scobee!